A simple, racist nationalist!

September 17th, 2009

This is absolutely true!  Tonight, on Facebook:

Tarah Marty Carla Edwardin my life there’s been heart ache and pain i don’t know if i can face it again can’t stop now i’ve travelled so far to change this lonely life i wanner know what love is i want you to show me!!!! gonner take alittle time alittle time to look around me…..”

Ray Hardy
Ray Hardy
Bloody Foreigner….!!
Julien Le Guen
Julien Le Guen
Ray, we are all foreigner of someone!
What you say makes you a racist or just a simple person who is not able to see the difference between roots and soul.
We have all to learn about foreigner .
I hate nationalist . Be proud where you from but not close minded . What ever ! I just have enough to read those kind of stupid things
Ray Hardy
Ray Hardy
LOL! All that sea air has moistened your brain! Rest your roots and your soul Julien! I’m neither racist, simple nor nationalist. “Foreigner” is the name of the band who wrote the lyrics to the song that Tarah posted. Perhaps YOU need to learn about Foreigner!! Next time, think about the accusation, BEFORE you write it.

I’m available 24/7 for your apology.

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Sandals & others…A lack of respect for your wedding?

July 3rd, 2009

It’s saddening that on the most important day of a couple’s life, they are often left with no choice as to who gives them, what amount to, the only tangible memories they get to take away from such a special day.

Hotels on this island, such as Sandals and Almond Bay make it clear on their sites that “All external vendors are prohibited”. So, instead of being allowed to choose who photographs one of the most important days of your life, these hotels enforce a choice upon you. And why? Very simply, they can employ non-professional photographers with, in most cases, little or no experience, pay them a pittance and charge you a premium. Sandals own packages start at $1200US, and with the production line of weddings that they often have, let’s say just 10 weddings in just one of the 3 resorts they currently operate raise $12,000US per day. It’s good business when most of the “photographers” they hire barely earn $50US a day.

Sadly, for the bride and groom, family and friends, the images they receive rarely if ever match up to the images in the brochure, in the ads or the websites.

As a wedding planner, I’ve recommended St. Lucia and it’s hotels for many years, encouraging couples to not only marry here, but to bring their families and friends too. Because of these policies by the hotels, I’ve had many couples choose other islands for their weddings, depriving St. Lucia of valuable occupancy and revenue. At a small wedding I planned recently, we worked out that over 60 St. Lucians directly benefitted from that wedding, quite asides from the hotel and it’s 30 guests.

Many hotels here are struggling, and it’s no wonder when management have the foresight only to see short term greed, rather than long term profit. Worse is the complete moral disregard for the happiness of their own clients. I’ve personally witnessed some hotel wedding co-ordinators “chit-chat” their way through ceremonies, and amateur photographers with poor experience and equipment fail to live up to the promise of the brochure and web-site images.

I myself, and other competent photographers on the island have met more than our fair share of heartbroken clients from some of these hotels.

image by Ray Hardy

image by Ray Hardy

The best advertising this island has is often in the work that photographers of quality provide where couples with great images go home and show so many of their friends and family. The vast majority of my clients come here as a result of seeing my work elsewhere. Social networking sites increase this joy and pride that a couple have in the memories provided of their day, with 100s + seeing those images, and this island. You rarely see clients go home and write detrimental reviews of their “factory” wedding or photography, and the reason I hear the most is this: Because they want to be proud of their expensive holiday and wedding, and feel the pride they had before they came, when the excitement of telling everyone where they were coming and why, was so fulfilling. How can they then go back and admit anything else?

But Sandals have their bases covered there. How many glorious reviews have we all seen on Trip Advisor from delighted clients…all with only contribution to the site? Surely they aren’t writing their own reviews?!! Are middle management asked to contribute to these forums? Surely not?! Clients of mine who complained got upgrades, free footwear etc etc..!!

Now, that same social network will sadly bring disrepute to this island and many of it’s hotels unless a revision of this ridiculous policy is made very soon. For the last couple of years, I have already witnessed too many clients and their loved ones go to other islands instead.

St. Lucia is a small island, and now heavily reliant on the tourist industry for the majority of it’s income. It’s bad enough that hotels like Sandals, Almond Bay and others are owned by companies outside of St. Lucia and therefore the profits raised leave the island. But when those hotels, who in most cases were granted licenses and concessions by a generous government here, then use their power and influence to extract every cent and send it back “home”, it’s very sad, and perhaps not entirely legal? St. Lucia should be thought of as it’s own business, where these prime locations are used for hotels owned by St. Lucian businesses. As it stands, if St. Lucia was a business, the Chairman would have been booted out long ago.

This trend has to stop. Brides should get the choice of who photographs their day, and local vendors such as photographers, hairdressers, florists, taxi drivers, food-suppliers and many others should all be allowed to ply their wares in an island with a responsibility to allow them to fairly earn an income.

St. Lucia, you may be Simply Beautiful…but integrity and a good sense of morals goes a long way too.

A friend in need…just say nothing…!

July 2nd, 2009

You know those times, when something falls out of your mouth, and without looking up, you just know you said the wrong thing!

As guys, women spend years telling us to listen. When we offer a retort, we’re told “I only wanted you to listen, why’d you answer me? How could you possibly understand?”  So, we get wise, and the next time we listen…we say nothing…smile proudly…and then hear “So, you have nothing to say?”. In time, we begin to understand that the rules change every day…and there’s just no right thing to do. Years of trial and error(mostly error) have led us to end up with “Yes dear”, “Really?”, and my favourite, the “non-vocal sympathetic shake of the head whilst trying not to look at the T.V. manoeuvre”!

One thing we try to do is to relieve the situation. I was recently confided in by a friend. I listened politely, assured her I was actually hearing her by interjecting with brief, but relevant questions, clarifying any points that might lead to an accusation of non-understanding later. The conversation continued and I began to realise that my attempts to relieve, console and show my understanding were starting to fail. Grabbing my mental notes of “1001 things not to say in this situation”, I sailed straight over page 2 and did exactly what it states not to do…I made a small, perfectly crafted witticism. It was expertly dismissed by my friend, in fact, completely unacknowledged!  Taking the time to listen again, I was starting to panic. I was still NOT making anything better. When will I learn that I don’t always have to?! ”Don’t say anything stupid” I told myself…and two seconds later…did exactly that! Another two seconds, and the conversation was over!

Another friend of mine surprised me once after asking me an awkward question, and pointed out that my fake cough was just a way to find time to get that elusive correct answer. She was mostly right!

For those of you who don’t know me well, and those who think you do…but don’t, and of course those who either now or very soon will wish they didn’t….(did I cover everyone?), here’s the problem…

I’m loved or loathed for my honesty. Replace honesty with “a complete lack of diplomatic or sympathetic interjection, combined with an astounding ability to give the truth, no matter how hard or hurtful it may be”.  Now you see my issue! However, given the right circumstances, and some small respect or affection for the person in question,  I will try my very best to keep to myself any comments that could result in the “goldfish with mouth open” impression, the “walking out of the room whilst trying to hide tears” impression…and of course, it’s always good to avoid physical violence!

So, now I add in the little “two-cough” routine…expertly giving me time to NOT say the first and completely truthful thing in my head. Instead, the time is used to come up with something humourous, witty and pertinent in order not only to show a continued understanding and empathy, but to try and cheer up my friend in need.  “But why do you do that?” I hear you shout…and the answer is simple…I just don’t know when to shut the hell up, well I do…but I can’t….I just can’t!

However, when the same friend in need accepted my apology, and continued to confide in me, I was proud. After telling me of an ideal situation where her soul mate would “finish her sentences”, I was proud not to have interjected and replaced “sentences” with anything like “dinner”, “crossword” or “vodka”! So, you see, I learnt! In those split seconds, I listened, I remembered, declined the opportunity for poorly laid humour, expelled my two coughs and when my mouth opened, it said “awwww….that’s so lovely!”

Patting myself on the back, I went back and contemplated page 2 again…

Wedding Image – Jalousie Plantation

July 1st, 2009
Wedding at Jalousie by Ray Hardy

Image by Ray Hardy

There are some incredibly beautiful locations in St. Lucia, both to enjoy and holiday, but also to have your wedding at. Beautiful beaches, gardens and waterfalls make for some stunning images. Of course, as a photographer, I miss England’s little villages…rolling greens and beautiful little chapels and churches. But having said that, how many people have wedding photographs in their albums like this one?
This image was taken at a wedding at Jalousie Plantation in Soufriere. Between, what one marriage officer calls “The Breasts of St. Lucia”, to everyone else The Pitons, Jalousie really is a wonderful location.

Some silly things that people do and say…

July 1st, 2009

This is absolutely true. No, really, it is! I was enjoying a conversation yesterday with a friend of mine on MSN. You know, the kind of friend who can’t program the VCR, fills up a digital camera long before learning how to get the photos out of it…but makes the best lasagna known to man, allegedly! During the course of the conversation, which was via microphones connected to our respective PCs, this friend once again hit the desk and jungle of wires underneath it, causing the microphone to once again fade out. When I say once again, I mean the 237th time this month…so with gritted teeth, I say…”I can’t hear you”…and “nope…still can’t hear you…”

16 replies of “Can you hear me now?”…quiet enough to only be heard with my ear attached to the loudest speakers in the house…I yell out “Just kick something!” And bingo…my friend “passed go” and collected 200 bucks! Having been slightly deafened by the scream of success…”Wow…what did you kick?” I asked…

…and the reply came…”the box thing…with the CDs in it”!!!! That’ll be the PC then!

Welcome to my…Blog! (I hate that word!)

July 1st, 2009

Well, with all the twittering, people getting “twitted”, “twatted” and heaven knows what behind closed doors…I guess it’s about time I unleash my thoughts on the world. Actually, I was inspired to do so by a couple of friends, one of whom you can read about here:   http://www.ameelicious.com/  The other, a writer herself, also encouraged me to leap out onto that “edge”! If this is the “edge”, then maybe my life is hitting rock-bottom!

Anyway…let’s hope for anyone reading this…that the faith and encouragement were worthwhile! Perhaps more importantly, let’s hope someone, somewhere gets inspired to comment!